Ever been with the perfect person for you, your soulmate, your best friend, someone who has been in and out of your life for over a decade and everytime that person comes around you get butterflies? Imagine not being able to have that as you want it because it’s just bad timing.
My Mr. Big.
Ive known Mr. Big for 15 years or so, we weren’t always in touch through out those years but everytime we got in touch it was like no time had been lost.
We had been in the same class since the 2nd grade, even graduated together in the 8th. Don’t get me wrong we hated each other through out those years, he picked on me and I picked on him… Neither of us wanted to admit we had a crush on one another. We lived down the block from one another, and never seemed to care until we reached high school. Every morning and afternoon for a year we would take the train together, it was honestly one of my best memories from h.s. I remember all the good laughs we had on the train ride. It’s crazy because we looked forward to seeing one another everyday, and truthfully when I didn’t, it made me sad. I always remember walking up my block and him starring from his porch, like a creep lol. But we never mentioned our crush for one another, we just always knew something was there but for some reason we decided to ignore it.
As my next year in high school began I remember looking for him on the train, the bus, and the block where we lived and I couldn’t find him, come to find out he moved… I never thought I would miss him as much as I did, I didn’t realize how much those rides with him meant to me until he wasn’t on that ride with me anymore. A few years went by, I graduated h.s and got over Mr. Big not being there on those rides. I was in a relationship with someone, and shortly after graduating became pregnant. I remember him finding me on social media, and we came into contact, but this time we couldn’t talk as freely, I had restrictions. I was in an abusive, controlling relationship. Talking only at certain times, and those certain times were always good times.
I removed social media and changed my number, loosing contact with Mr. Big again due to that relationship I was in. Once again years past by, and no contact. I decided to come back to the social media life, and not a day later Mr. Big messages me… I remember having the biggest smile on my face, I never thought of hearing from him and specially with him telling me had a dream about me and felt an urge to check up on me. I’m not going to lie, I felt a bit weird but comfort in it at the same time. I was separating from someone and needed a friend at the time and he couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. I confided in him, I literally told this man everything, he became my best friend. This time we said would be different, we promised to never lose touch again. And we’ve kept it… Sort of
He was going through a lot as well, and I gave myself a mission as his best friend to remove him from the toxic surrounding him and I kinda did. We never thought we would end up together. But we just clicked. We loved that we clicked and rushed into a lot of things. When we were good we were good. People saw us before we saw it. We were told how we were soul mates before we realized it. There was just something in this friendship, relationship, we never had before and it was like a drug. We were addicted to that feeling of having one another.
Things escalated quickly, things happened where I lived, and for my sons health I couldn’t stay there anymore and needed a place to stay, he welcomed us with open arms… And I could never thank him enough… But now to think of it, I don’t regret it, but I wish I could’ve just came back to my home and still have a boyfriend, a best friend, a life partner. Never wanted to come back to my home single, alone, and with just a friend.
But im taking it day by day, and trying. Yes I know we rushed a lot of things and that might have ruined us. But was it bad timing? Maybe. I just know it hurts. We were a team, and now there’s just a You and an I. We are at an awkward place where I don’t know how to deal with this friendship, and sometimes I even wonder if we should be in each other’s lives… But there’s still this feeling when I see him that I will continue to hold on to and have faith that one day, it won’t be bad timing.